The Start of my Happiness 2

[Zues126]

So I'm not sure why I did this. Saturday night S3 got sick in the middle of the night. I got up and cleaned him up and his bed and he went back to sleep. In the morning he was fine and played hard all day. I told W when I was dropping the boys off and she got upset I didn't tell her earlier in the day. Like she did when S1 got sick. If I expect her to tell me this kind of stuff why did I feel like I didn't have to tell her the same thing?

After a few upset texts from her about how I wasn't going to tell her etc. I said. I get that your mad and I'm sorry I didn't tell you earlier in the day. I should have like you did with S1. I watched him all day and he didn't show any signs of still being sick. I should have told you and I am sorry for that.

I didn't get any response after that probably because she got what she wanted in a apology from me. I feel a bit forced into that apology. I don't see how I did anything wrong as far as he was fine after getting sick. I do see that she had te courtesy to tell me about S1 right away and I was expecting it when we met. I just kind of dropped it on her when we met.

You allowed yourself to get forced into an apology because you're afraid of her being mad at you.

You can't nice a WW into being respectful.

This doesn't mean you should be rude or disrespectful to her, only that you can't use her emotions towards you as a compass with which to steer your ship.

In this case you don't even have to apologize. If you agree you could say something validating like 'I hear you feel the children being sick deserves communication. I have no problem doing that in the future.'

If you need your WW's approval to feel good about who you are it's going to be a bumpy ride because she's going to have nothing but spew for months or years. I'd recommend finding alternate places to validate yourself (not other women!).