Welcome! Sounds like you've encountered the "Love Avoidant". Google it-you'll find some articles that will make sense of what you experienced.
When I was first divorced from my husband of 24 years, I dated several men who were love avoidants. I was very confused by this until my friend sent me an article.
In retrospect, I think I was subconsciously choosing these types because I myself wasn't ready to fully move forward in a new relationship. These avoidant guys felt "safe" because they certainly weren't going to ask too much from me.
Now that I'm ready for a real relationship again, I have a boyfriend who is very present, I never have to wonder where he is or when he's going to see me.
