@sandi2: based on rules - I should let her be on the couch as long as she wants? My lawyer said that I should give her money for rent (if she can't afford it), just so she can be separated and that I can get with my life asap.
I am not real sure how you mean this question. Could you restate it, please? And, does it have anything to do with what your lawyer advised about financing her apartment?
Everyone may not agree with me about the physical affection. It just makes no sense to me why a man would snuggle, hug, kiss, or have sex with a woman who has told him she doesn't love him and is trying to hurt him every way she can. And btw, a time limit on snuggling? What does that prove, or what are you trying to show her?
Your W is a "user". She uses you to get what she wants, and she uses her own child to get what she wants.
I do not understand your lawyer's advice, but I will not dispute it.
Is the OM still in the picture?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
