Hanging in there with hope

[Sotto]

Hi Tam, H never wanted to come back (as yet!) He just wanted 'both' - when he met me he said he felt swept away with romance and wanted to hold my hand - said I'm beautiful, he loves me and I was the best wife. But he already had airline tickets booked to see OW the next weekend (didn't discover that until after.) I clearly told him that there will be no kind of R with me if he is involved with OP, and I have never budged from that position.

I think you are aiming to let go, heal and move firmly forward. To me, moving on is closing the door at your end. However, you can move forward, accept his decision (to end the R with you and be with OW) and rebuild your own life without him. If you can get yourself to a place where you have a rich, full and happy life without him, you are in a better place to consider a possible R in future if he turns back towards the M.

I don't think it is a good idea to date too early anyway (to me dating is closing the door) - so I think the above approach is healthiest all round. I'm of the Zues opinion and don't intend to date at all during 2016 (we'll likely be D next month.) At the end of this year I'll review & see how I feel then.

Take care xx