Hope you've got the latest "blahs" out of your system. I know I have missed some of your posts and you may have already addressed these issues, but this is what I see.
Mas Mr. W always lazy and averse to work? When you met him, what made him tick? What were his dreams? What was his passion? How did M cool or end these dreams and passions, if at all? Would he even try to answer the question? Is this man destined and likely to be content to live a passionless life for the remainder of his days? If not, why? My W often accused me of being flatline--of showing no emotion, but a lot of that was my burying the hurt and distance I was feeling from her in our R. If there is any hope, there has to be something deep inside this guy that is crying out for your attention, if you (and he for that matter) could only figure it out.
My W wants respect, acknowldgement, validation, and an open window into my soul. But I've had a hard time providing these due to my personality and the fact that she engages in acts that diminish respect and she can't peer into my soul without also shooting BBs at everything she sees and dislikes. Even though you have changed, is Mr. W still gun shy? What makes him feel safe with you?
If someone could ask Mr. W what he wants out of life, what would he say? Just some shark food for thought. Go Avs!
