Hello-My Situation

[Vanilla]

I want to be financially independant
I want to go back to school
I want to continue to be a loving, nuturing, creative person.
I want to start being independant. Right now my house, car, bills, everything is in my WAS name. I don't even have a bank account or access to his. I NEVER want to be in the position where I have to ask for money 24-7 from any man.
I want to avoid being needy and clingy and shy.
I want to avoid being a doormat. So many people tell me Im too nice and a doormat. Im tired of being walked on. I want to look back and know that while I try to make people happy that I'm no longer a people pleasing doormat. I hate conflict and change and i want to embarrasse changes in me and my life.

Renail a good start although these are the things you act on, a terrific start to an action plan.

What we need to do is convert these to values.

For instance for V a core value is:

I believe in life long learning and development, I grow and develop myself daily. The way I do this (actions), I read a minimum of a book a week and I do my professional reading within 10 days.........

I believe in fitness and health of the mind and body and i dedicate myself to ........ (actions)

Core value, I will not be abused so I ensure my boundaries are strong and I state my limits on behaviour.......

I consider that a strong fin base is core to my life and stability so I......(action)

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In a couple of years the actions are different but the core value is the same.

State things in the present tense and using active words, positive choices.

The human mind doesn't understand negatives so say please be careful with that vase and not please don't drop the vase. The subconscious mind will say and here drop the vase.

It's the elephant, don't think of punk elephants, the first thing that comes to mind is a pink elephant!

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So

Financial independence is my route to freedom, I am fiscally independent so I.....(action)

Confidence and communication fill my life so I..... (action)

Strength caring and sensitivity show in my life to others and I am willing to give sensibly and this adds to my life and makes me stronger so I ....... (actions)

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I hope that helps, no doubt there are others around with fantastic ideas too.

V