I had my separation hearing on Friday. It was continued because the judge knew me and did not want to hear the case. We tried to work out an agreement. While in the conference her attorney told us. That marriage is hard and you have to work through your problems. We have been married for almost 19 years and we need to try to see if we could maybe talk and see if we could work it out. I know people are gonna say this is wrong but I told him in front of her that I did not want a divorce, I love my wife and would work to repair our marriage. Her attorney looked at her and said see there maybe you should go home and think about this and maybe you could talk and work out your problems... or maybe there is too much water under the bridge. She very quickly answered "That is it" I told her attorney, I can forgive her for her mistakes but she can't forgive me for my mistakes. So if this is what she wants I have certain requirements that I wanted, child support not at this minimum wage rate that they wanted but at the rate she was making when she voluntarily quit her job, I want her to sign the house to me and I would take my marital debts and walk away. They would not agree to this. My wife is bitter and is very angry at me. But what she is mad about is that I told people that we were having problems and after her EA I followed her and hacked her email. I know this is what I should not have done. I did all this before I started reading what I needed to do. It's done and I can not take it back. I am gonna leave her alone. She knows where I stand. I have gone from her words, the love of her life to someone she does not want to talk to. She still has a lot of grief about her dad's death which triggered all of this. I just wish there was something that would help her get over her bitterness and hardened heart.
