K-Girl, welcome to the board. I can no longer keep up in Newcomers, this is the comfortable place. And Claire and Maybell and Raliced and Mozza are here, too. It's a party!
Sorry on your breakup, I know it's hard, but after having been through what you have, you know you'll be OK and you have the tools to get through it. See this as a learning experience about what you want in a R, I'm sure you learned some things. Keep your heart open.
I was just pondering some dating issues I have, and mentally went through a list of who I could talk to. My "old" friends have been M as long as I was, and I don't think would be helpful. Many of my "new" friends don't date at all, they've given up after so many years of not settling with the right one. Maybe I'll just go update my own thread and spell some of it out, you guys are the best.