WAW - Detaching is the Hardest Thing

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WAW created a narrative in which you are a monster and she had no choice than to leave, then she had her lawyer express that to justify the divorce.

Hi Zeus. - yes in essence. W and I had a painful Friday evening when I expressed the hurt I felt at the particulars - I know I shouldn't according to DB.

I said it was half-truths, exaggeration, distortion, lies, and misrepresentation. W said yes that is what the lawyers do. But remember she told them the bare 'facts' of the narrative and they exaggerated it. She had to agree with what was written.

She said there was some truth in all the points and talked about me not helping around the house and wanting appreciation for doing the grocery shopping during her second pregnancy. This was 9 years ago and conveniently forgets that I have done 90% of the grocery shopping in the last 5 years as well as 75% of the laundry. We have had a cleaner one day per week for the last 4-5 years so W doesn't do any housework except tidy away and fill the dishwasher.

All good things in the M are washed away by the Lawyers spew.

I was upset by the particulars and W got upset because she could see how hurt I was. We had a hug, both of us in tears, and me saying that I had tried so hard to make things work. She replied that she knew that, and the M was not all bad and there were many good times.

Not good DBing, but that's the way it went.

The M is lost, I have given up hope, I want a fair and just settlement, but I won't drive the bus.

I will probably move out in the next few weeks - there is a chance of a 2-bed apartment owned by a friend - so I might get a cheap deal until my financial settlement comes through.