Thanks for posting. I did tell him that I don't want a D in the conversation we had, I didn't tell him it was OK to go do it. I just thought that telling him that his stated obstacle was out of the way might 'scare' him into realising that his choice is becoming real and that that might make him come home.
I don't know how I can disconnect with things how they are at the moment. I'm so confused by all the different advice and I don't know which way to turn. I feel like setting up a schedule will just push him further away and/or make him angry. Surely I don't want to be making him angry either? I don't know. I really don't know what I'm supposed to be doing here. When I was on these boards 9 years ago people seemed to celebrate their 'baby steps' and it doesn't seem that way anymore. I'm so confused. We are living a few doors away from each other, he hasn't been to a solicitor, he doesn't talk about any of it and comes and goes when he pleases. When he's here he's helpful and acts like nothing's wrong. I really don't see what my next step is. How am I supposed to distance myself when he is so ever present?
