Pretend for a moment it is 3 years from now and you are looking back at the adversity you faced in 2016. You are proud because you handled it so well. What are the things you did that you are proud of? What are the things you avoided that you are proud you didn't do?
Write that out...then use that as a compass to handle your day to day struggles.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15