I know it has been said many times about you talking to a lawyer, I just can't remember if you actually have talked to one about what to do to protect yourself. Again, I want to suggest that you not look at staying with your folks as moving out of your home at the moment. Don't pack up all your belongings and move to their place. However, you could tell your W that you think you will spend some time with them, in order to have some space.
Look, I don't know the law where you live. Neither am I a lawyer. That is why I tell you to get legal advice where you live. I am just looking at the picture from your own writings. I see a man in serious turmoil, where one wrong move could escalate to tragedy. That is why I am pleading with you to go spend some time staying with your parents. You need some space from the tension and problems. Give yourself and your W some breathing room. Would this not be okay to do for a while?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
