I moved out at BD and went to stay with my parents for a bit, hoping we might resolve things. H never seemed to want to do that and the A continued. I stayed with my parents for 4/5 months and then rented my current flat. I'm in a nice town in the Midlands and pay £600/month for a 2 bed flat.

We also have a city flat in London which H is using and he may well buy that with funds from the D settlement. The D costs may be significant, so I would take your W up on that offer. Mine look to be working out around the £2.5k mark - ours is an uncontested D, filed by H and we have no kids together.

For your solicitor, I would prepare a sheet of a4 - some bullet points of your circa - how long M, kids ages, house status etc. On that sheet, if you can list your key assets too. All of this can save time during a half hour free consult and they can keep your crib sheet too.

Ask away - I'm happy to help (not that I know much!!) xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus