I want my old life back because it was good, great even. W has lost her mind. Thanks Rouky for visiting.
I can't take any more criticism today for glaring at the stupid ow (sow) or for calling her sow. Or for answering a phone call from W. I love her.
What if all this advice is just cr@p? I'm here to save my M, not just to move on and away from it. I'm sure I will be happy one day. Right now I just want the woman I love and miss so much it feels like a knife in my gut. I'd rather be happy with her if there's any chance in hell.
If someone sees this and has actually saved their M, I'd love to hear it. Otherwise are we just sheep in some cult or something? Taking advice from people whose marriages failed? I wish we could all get the spouses we love back. Some of us are still trying.
I have felt the same way so many times. So many people telling me how to save my marriage when they couldn't save their own. I get it. I did a lot of things that would not have been recommended on this site and it worked. I did save my marriage. We're chillin' on a Sunday morning drinking coffee and having a cinnamon roll together. The affair was exposed and crushed. That was a good thing. I started moving on and talking to other women. I filed for D. Talking to other women was a huge no-no here but it served two purposes. One, it helped me regain my confidence as someone that other people want and are attracted to and having been horribly rejected by my wife. Two, it made her realize not to take me for granted. I wasn't a guarantee that she can keep in reserve while she pursued someone else.
Here's the deal. None of these relationship advice sites are perfect. Truth be told, more of these relationships that people are getting advice about end in divorce then are saved. That's true of all marriage gurus. They lose more than they save.
You know your W and your relationship better than any of us. At the end of the day you have to take in all the different types of advice and tweak it to what you think will work for you.
