What was the nature of your M before he left? You said he left suddenly? No fighting or disagreements about anything beforehand?
I've had 5 months since BD to think back. He had definitely pulled back prior to this. Couldn't see it at the time.
The biggest shock for me has been learning about the deception. He was one of the more honest men around. I never had a reason to doubt him.
He had been lying to me for a very long time...months. All the while telling me he loved me. We agreed when we married we would repeat our vows every month on the date.After EA 2 yrs ago, I was hesitant and it was more emotional. But he would still initiate it and we had been intimate until BD. He wasn't always responsive and blamed it on fatigue, work, needing the little blue pill.
At one time, I showed him some worksheets I created after EA asking how things were with us. He said there wasn't anything i could do differently. Everything was fine. And we went on, until BD a few weeks later.
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Me 50 H 51 M 17 T 20 D16 H EA Feb 2014 BD Sept 2015 H moved out Nov 2015 W Filed D papers Mar 2016