Hi Ancaire
I think moving on is different for everyone. The one constant: we all know how you feel, been there, done that, wearing the tshirt, so you aren't alone with the feelings.

Having kids makes it somewhat easier in one way because one has no choice but to put the kids first.

It's best to minimize your contact as much as possible so you can get back on your feet.

Try to take care of yourself as best you can. I know how hard that is, believe me. I think I went days without eating post-BD. I just couldn't process food, or anything else for that matter. Total flight or fight response, cortisol overload.

All you have to do today is breathe. Sending {{{{hugs}}}}

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver