Divorce Papers

[TimR]

I am going to the counselor and priest for two reasons. First and foremost, I am going to work through becoming a better person. So if I am lucky enough to reunite with my wife, I can treat her how she should be treated. In order, that I do not fall into the same downward spiral again. The second reason is for coping skills while we are apart so that I may have the wear-with-all and emotional stability to work through this and give it the best effort I can.

As far as contact for the kids, I think I have been pretty good with not sending unnecessary texts. Examples of my texts are: Can we talk about this weekend, should boy1 spend the weekend with me since we have to leave early for the tournament and then practice the next day? Boy2 wants me to take him up to his gf's house. Before, I agreed to do it I wanted to check with you to make sure it is ok? (in the past she has not been to keen on him going there).

I do have some good news to report. First my wife allowed my stepson to spend the weekend with me. Via text she agreed for him to spend the weekend at my apartment. She even offered that if he did not spend the night with me that she would wake him up, get him ready and bring him to me so I did not have to drive down there in the morning (6am). Second she did show up at his tournament today (which she definitely would not have missed). But unlike last tournament, she did not avoid me, she spoke with me and although it was a little uncomfortable it was very pleasant. She even joked with me a bit. Additionally, there was eye contact when we spoke, which has been a big change. Finally, she did not just leave immediately after he was done but stayed a few hours and left to go visit her niece. It was a great day and I am giving myself some pats on the back for employing the "as if" technique.

Per my telephone coach I am currently working on another reconciliation letter to her. Hopefully, it will provide some additional positive feedback. Wish me luck!