REALLY trying to detach...but GALing regardless!#2

[Rain75]

No, no...this was before she knew he was married. She was furious with him when she found out and wanted nothing to do with him after that. She told me about trying to get pregnant when we were comparing stories originally about what he had told each of us about each other.

I can't imagine actually having to deal with an unintended OW pregnancy, Rain. I am so sorry. I will admit, that is something that has always worried me since I realized H had cheated. Because what if she wasn't the only one, and some kid turns up on my door step someday calling my H dad? Yeesh...

His ow didn't want a fling she wanted my life and a marriage. She was very up front about that to him and then admitted it to me.

My H's OW wanted the full blown deal too. She told me she was trying to get pregnant and wanted to have a family with him. :P

Wow. This is when she knew or didn't know that he was marries and already has children?

Anna ow in my case did get pregnant. It was horrible. I can't go through that again. Ever! She lost the pregnancy 4 or 5 months in.

I wouldn't wish it in anyone. Ever. It came on the heels of finding out about the A. Even thinking of it now hurts.

And okay...Thanks for clarifying your sitch. I had similar conversations with ow. Comparing and learning things. Honestly? Knowing certain things has hurt our chances more than I thought it would. We all want to know everything. But then we do and we can't un-know.

And when he says something or does something and it's "less than" what he said or did for/with ow, it's a big big problem.

I advise against talking to APs beyond confirming A. That's just me.