Sorry you're here excile. Read up on Trumpet's threads, he's gone through a similar situation as yours.
Cadet will come by soon enough and give you a LOT of homework. Do it. Read all of it. Then read it again.
This is going to be a long haul, but you want it to be. Your wife took a year to prep, she's not going to turn around in a day or so. Start doing the things you need to take care of yourself.
Have you joined any kind of support program for your addiction? If not, I'd do that now. Porn is a tough one, but it's not about the porn, it's about what's underneath it. Start really diving into that, what's underneath and then what's underneath that.
Again, sorry you're here. Use this board, and give back to it and it will save your life at this difficult time.
Good luck to you,
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