Wife is in love with another man

[shreeve]

Thanks trumpet! That was kind of my suspicion, but of course we'll never know for sure. Just seems odd that she's so concerned that I move on romantically. She's even suggested some mutual friends that I should date!! Figured it was something that would make her feel better about affair. I explained that my divorce support group and counselor have suggested it will take 2 years before I am mentally and emotionally ready to date. She quickly tried to justify that that doesn't apply to us?? Similar to her irrational logic about why she doesn't have to stand by her vows to me. Yes, it has shocked me and our friends / family. She kept the affair part secret from everyone of course, only explaining how unhappy and out of love she was with me. After I found out about affair, she admitted the affair to her mom. So yes, the woman I knew and loved had character and morals that would have lead most friends / family to believe that this is something that would not have been possible. I'm definitely not burning bridges with her, although I have been NC and only speak with her if she initiates. Also not letting her hang around for chit chat when we drop off / pick up the dogs. Still always very cordial but just get the process done quickly so I can get back to GAL.