Read the 37 rules. Believe none of what she says and half of what she does. You can't understand her because she doesn't understand herself.
An example of this is you thinking that if porn was the issue, somehow quitting porn will make it better. That's not going to work. You are fixated on a certain outcome, but you can't control her. This question:
would love to know if there is away to slow this down and get her to look at me differently and eventually trust me again.
The answer is no. There is no way you can get her to do anything. The hardest part about marriage is you can't control your partner, and you can't always get what you want in life. It's hard, scary, and painful.
What you can do is live in a way that is true to what you believe. That is all you can do. And if you do that you open the door for good things to come your way. What that looks like no one can promise, but in the end life marches on, you have to decide how you want to do your part.
Please repost on newcomers and hang in.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
