Anna. Thanks. I get what you're saying. And I also know eventually he will stop. He hates being ignored. I just feel lost. I ignore him always when I'm mad at him. So really a 180 for me is to engage, by listening, not arguing and validating. But like I read here somewhere...what is there to validate? His cheating?
Or as (I wish I could remember who) said. Validating something good right now equals to "hey..great job breathing. You do that really well"
