Day by Day..Hour by Hour 3

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Rain, are the boys with you? If they are, there is nothing that F needs to say to you about them that is an emergency right at this moment. You know they are alright. So, give yourself and your nerves a break and don't open your text messages for the rest of this afternoon....or for as long as you can stand it. He isn't going anywhere. He is throwing everything he can think of out there just trying to find ANYTHING that you will bite at so he can engage you in the same old begging and lies that you aren't going to believe anyway. He's just baiting you! You're letting him torment you by reading it. Absolutely nothing has changed today....it's the same as yesterday, the day before, the day before, and so on. He's not anymore looking for a new girl right this moment than he was yesterday or than he will be tomorrow. NOTHING HAS CHANGED except for your response and it's confusing him so he keeps trying what has always worked before. Eventually, he will figure out that doesn't work anymore. Then, he will have to figure out what will if he wants to keep you in his life.

You ARE doing an awesome job at DB for the moment. Keep it up! And, when you DO have to talk to him, you can, even if only for 10 minutes while on the phone, ACT AS IF you are thrilled that he's out of your life and you have some other hunky supermodel that loves you and is giving you what you want/need. Kill him with cheerful kindness. Remember when I talked about being at H's house and that skanky b ow walked in like she owned my H and my house? She was so freaking bubbly it drove me nuts. Irritated the S@#t out of me! Do the same to him (but don't over bubbly it, lol). It WILL make him wonder why you are so happy. If he goes into the R jibberish, IGNORE it and redirect the conversation to what you want/need to talk about. If you've already talked about whatever you needed to talk about, then pleasantly END the conversation. Done. He will then sit there scratching his head and wondering WTF happened to Rain!

You CAN do this. Just focus on your goal before you ever answer the phone. And, if he comes over, either don't let him in, or leave and let him visit with the boys. You do not have to do this on HIS terms. This is YOUR show now. Run it the way YOU want to. He gets no say in Rain's show.

(((((Rain))))). I am sorry he's manipulating you and making you hurt so badly. Just hold your head up and put an end to it. I know you can. It's going to hurt either way, at least this way you might make progress toward YOUR goal. We are here to lean on if you need us.