Trying to get to that phase currently with counseling / support group. The emotions initially make me want to save the marriage no matter what, but the counseling gives me clarity about the work / changes in both of us that would have to occur. Than the question comes up about how much do I believe in her making these major changes? Seeing through the fog etc.

Not trying to hijack Flight, but is this the "continuation" of the "Re: Help for LBH who has a WW (new thread)" thread?? There was no link at the end of it for a new thread besides this one. Really interested in tagging along on your progress here, as well as sandi2's (and other's) input.


M 43 W 45
M 10.5 T 15
S 26 D 17 (previous relationships)
ILYB 12/25/15 + asks for D
Confirm affair 1/10/16
W has D ready to sign, but agrees to wait for refinancing to go through (I get a house!)