Rain, it sounds like you are doing a good job of DBing. If W said those things to me I'd run right over and tell her how much I love her. Of course the fact that you don't do those things is why it works. Who dropped us into this alternative universe?
Thanks NYGal but I'm not. I can only not respond when I ask myself what me responding will change. Will he magically decide to do what I need him to do? Will I suddenly feel loved and safe with him again?
It seems like I'm just pushing him further away. But whats the alternative for me? Pretending that all of this is okay and rug sweeping because he isn't mature enough to actually face and deal with our issues. And that is not acceptable anymore. It just isn't.
We R after his PA. And all that happened was fighting and him taking the A to an EA which he got a lot better at hiding. Screw that.
