"I'm trying to change my behavior to make her happy as if she is calm and happy she won't yell at the kids to much."
Here's a lot of your problems:
1).you can't change to make her happy. She isn't interested in being married to you, so changing for her sake is going to be taken as too little, too late. And even if it did work in convincing her to stay, you would gradually lose track of these "changes" and you'd be right back here. Instead, you need to change for you. And for your kids. Grow your personal being. Grow your parental abilities. But don't become super emotional husband or Mr Mom...that isn't going to get her to respect you and reignite her interest in you as a mate. Take your focus off of her needs and put it on you and your kids.
2) also, you can't just meekly cater to her every whim hoping not to upset her. She's "in love" with another person, yet you are scared to upset her for fear of....what...exactly? She isnt interested in a man that is always putting her as a superior.
I hope you stick with us Mrx. Keep posting.
Thank you for your advice, I'm not making the changes for just her but for my self growth and to keep my kids happy. What I'm scare about is the wellness of my kids they are my main priority.
