Sotto, I agree w/Pink and bttrfly. Divorce is business and you know what? He probably wouldn't feel the same way about you had you wanted the divorce. Being fair in settlement doesn't mean that you take less. It means that you ask for what is rightfully yours because you do not know what the future holds for you financially.
It's true, no one wins in divorce, but at least you will get what is truly a fair deal at the end of the day. Please don't feel sorry for him, he is the one that wanted out and trust me, he may have some difficult days along the way, but he's going to be okay...he's a big boy and he'll figure it out.
The most important person to take care of right now is YOU! Everything else will fall into place when the time is right.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
