H and I went back and forth all week long, negotiating the terms of our D. We finally came to an agreement today. I held my ground like a bulldog. Everytime he attempted to buffalo me, intimidate me, trick me, or throw a tantrum - I just stuck to my rights, what I know them to be, and how I wouldn't settle for less.
I was given ultimatums. I said "Go ahead." I was threatened, and just asked what H thought the kids would think of that. I lost my temper just once, but not nearly as badly as I've done in the past. All in all, even though it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, I held my own and got what I needed to help me survive.
H is a burning ball of resentment and fury. Too bad. I'm exhausted, but feeling quietly pleased with myself. I'll be D before I know it. That, I'm not happy about. It is what it is - the only way to keep H from harming me. I got out of his way, so he could go "be happy". L should be drafting an agreement Monday. I'm kind of in shock. LOL
On a happier note, do any of you visit MWD's Divorce Busting Facebook page? She wrote a post about writing a book on infidelity, and I commented: " Infidelity is usually considered a sexual relationship. Yet, before someone I know actually entered into that type of relationship, there were others that were described as "just kissing" - I consider the other relationships to be just as bad. Am I wrong?"
Feel free to like the comment if you want a new FB friend.
