REALLY trying to detach...but GALing regardless!#2

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The only thing you can do is for yourself to make sure you are the most attractive option when he finally spins out and crashes. That's when you will have a chance to save your M.

I know that he's already gone. . I have stopped begging, pleading, crying, etc. Haven't done any of that since he ended it the second time. And, then, it was only a brief thing just that night and not again after that. Any of the "checking on him" that I do, he doesn't know about and I will never admit it to him. He doesn't even want me in the same room with him. UGH! He didn't ask me to leave, but when I brought it up he said he thought it would be best. REALLY? And, in response to what you wrote, I ALREADY AM the most attractive option for him right now. You should see the OW! What in the world does he see in her? WHY would he ever pick her over me? I have so much more going for me than she does. I will never understand what he's thinking. [/quote]

Think about all the great guys out there who would think you were nothing short of amazing if you treated them as you try to treat your H. He does not deserve you right now.

I admit that I have had a rough couple of marriages and have lost all the confidence that I once had. I am going to IC now trying to put myself back together so I can believe that someone out there would want to be with me. Right now I can't see it though. That makes this just that much more scary for me. Men can really beat down your self esteem and you don't even realize at the time how damaged you've become.