Ghostbusting Round 5 Detaching my feelings

[Sotto]

Ghost, I'm sorry to read about your convo with your W. I think it's an example of her trying to move things in 'her' direction and you resisting and trying to move them in 'your' direction - and then you lost control of your emotions and started acting out and she then got angry....can you see the pattern?

From where I'm sitting, I'm guessing you guys may separate and I don't think that's a bad thing. I think you need to be in a really strong place to handle in-house separation and in truth, you have some work to do on yourself before you guys even have a chance here.

The big thing for you to work on is your own fear of how you will cope alone (with help from your IC) - because this is what may happen with your life and you need to get yourself to a place where you can handle that and be okay. We all know it isn't what you want - but it may happen - and we all want you to live the best life you can, given all circumstances.

I think the best thing to do now would be engage, in a constructive way, with what your W wants - arrange to get the leak fixed and the house closer to listing..

JMHO - and keep posting my friend. You are never alone, as we are all here for you xx