What the heck is this?

[2Times2Many]

Three days down with almost no drama.

We went to a movie this evening (with assistant) which is one of those theaters where they serve food while you watch the movie. About 20 minutes before the movie ended, the waiter brought the bill and gave it to H. He put his credit card in the folder for payment. About 10 minutes later he leaned over and said they hadn't come to get the bill and made a profane remark while he put his credit card back in his wallet. He was going to walk out without paying! I told him I wasn't leaving without paying the bill and he said he didn't have enough cash. He had told the waiter when we ordered that he'd being paying cash, so the waiter probably had no idea he needed to process a credit card. I got the cash out of my wallet and paid the bill.

We walked to our cars, I said a quick, neighborly-like goodbye and headed home, shaking my head.

I'm starting to pick up on his frustration at having assistant around all the time. I expected that to happen but not quite so soon. He still has some of that mind set that he should do what he wants, when he wants, the way he wants and she is infringing on that. I'm thinking back to the comment he made that he wished he could dump her and spend the afternoon/evening here tomorrow. I know this house is his comfort zone when he's here (especially on weekends) even it he doesn't stay here anymore, but he wanted his freedom and I gave it to him. He can't have it both ways.

I'm still humming along and will be fine as long as he doesn't try to take his frustration out on me. I'm hoping that doesn't happen. I am determined that I will not allow him to push my buttons.

One other interesting note ... he asked me if I was doing okay with assistant here. I just smiled and said, "No problem." Arghh! At least he hasn't forgotten how I feel about her. I suppose that question was a feeler to see if anything has changed. My words may say one thing (yeah, I can do that, too) but my actions say another. I generally try to avoid her.

I have to be honest. It is so nice to come home after spending a day at the office with my MLC H and the assistant I don't care for and just be able to feel relaxed and at peace in my own home. It's like my little slice of heaven here on earth in the midst of a storm.

I've often thought it was sort of detrimental to DBing not to have H here in the house, but having done it both ways now, I have to give those of you who are living with your MLCer a huge round of applause. The amount of strength and internal fortitude it takes to deal with that on a daily basis is just tremendous. I couldn't do it ... not even on a part time basis. I have a huge amount of respect for those of you that are doing it.