Interesting you feel this way about assets and the division of it. I guess in my situation I was looking after my children's interests and not only mine, so it was easy to focus on my rights only.
I believe what is yours is yours and period. Your H made his choices and needs to live with the consequences. Maybe you can look at this looking at things from his perspective.
"Oh gosh! what hell did I do? I didn't just ruined my M, my R, someone else's life and M, R... but I also ruined my financial situation. Is this the end of me? Oh, maybe not, I feel like I can make some more mistakes until the S**t hit the fan. Somehow my quest to hit the bottom is going well, once I get there, then I can do some growing up and realize what an idiot I have been"
IMHO, I would let him be. Sometimes not having it, makes us think: Why?
Just be in peace with yourself that you are not robbing him or taking anything that is not yours.
