If you're waiting on an apology and for her to start working on things you will be disappointed.
Fogg, I'm glad you said this ^^. When I was relatively new on the board, it seem there were several tough LBH'S at the time. When I told them (practically word for word your own statement) not to expect an apology from a W (still in her waywardness) any time soon......I thought they would organize a lynch mob and come after me. (jk). It was not what they wanted to hear, and I was pretty much on my own.
At the time the WW is at the height of her rebellion, it is very doubtful she'll sincerely apologize for what she's doing. She may say the words, but she won't feel it in her heart. How many people do you know who are acting out and at the same time apologize for it? Their credibility is seriously doubted when they don't stop hurting you, right? Well, that's how it is with her.
I will tell you something that may sound more crazy than you can digest. Except for some type of revenge affair, I don't believe most WW's are doing what they do just to hurt the H. In other words, hurting him is not her objective in her wayward behavior. In her mindset, she is justified and deserves to do whatever it takes to be happy. If anyone gets hurt......then that's an unfortunate event as she progresses onward. She is focused on what she wants, not on how she may be hurting anyone. That is why some WW's can drop the bomb without crying or expressing concern. She is done and has no desire to save the M. Of course, some WW's will vary in this, but the bottom line is they will do what they want to do, regardless who gets hurt........as long as it's not them. That's why I talk so much about consequences. It's about all that is able to get through the fog.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
