It all blew up so fast.
W is a stay @ home mom and began role playing in an online game.
At first it was innocent, but after a few weeks it became an obsession.
I noticed that she was spending more and more time with specific OM's.
We had arguments, she said I was insecure and blamed it on my trust issues which I was in therapy for.
I found out after two months that she had in fact been doing erotic role play "ERP". I wanted her to delete the game and stop, but she said she was sorry and that it didn't mean anything, she said that if I made her delete the game that she would resent me and might "do something else".
Looking back I should have been more insistent.
I wanted to show her that I could trust her and would take her word that she would stop playing with the OM and not “ERP”.
Over the next month we had multiple arguments when I would see things and I would lose my temper (never physical) and I spent my fair share of time in hotels for a couple nights at hotels.
At the time I thought I was over reacting to things only to end up begging her , I'm sorry, I'll change etc. to let me come home (all the wrong things).
She has been staying with her family for one month now and comes to the house during the day when I'm at work to watch our kids.
She wants a divorce but has never said the word divorce. She is planning her new life and I am in limbo. I want to save this marriage.
I know there are issues that are the real problem and the game was the effect of them. I have been following advice that mirrors to what I saw from Sandi2 and we are civil with each other.
She even has dinner cooked when I get home (something she rarely did before) but she rushes right out the door as soon as I get there.
I only want her to care about our marriage and show me she values it and wants to fix.
She says she can't wait for me to get better and that I don't get her. I have distanced and doing the things I saw on a post from Sandi2 (I think) but the gap just continues to widen between us and she now spends even more time with the OM playing, via skype, text, and is even “Married” in the game.
She is not sorry and said she will never apologize.
I feel like my only option is to let her go.
I can't fix this if she doesn't want to.
I'm just waiting to get served once she finds a job.
I really need some advice.
Picking up DB today


R 13 years
M 8 years
S8 & S4
BD ........soon!?

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