Well, yesterday did unsettle me a little. It was another time when I stood up for my interests in the settlement. H had originally proposed a formula for us to use. Total assets, minus we each get what we came in with and all else split 50/50. I agreed this was fair, subject to financial disclosures. The settlement offer that then came was for less than this, and so I reviewed the figures and adjusted them based on the original formula from H.
The thing is, I feel a bit bad about it because I don't really 'need' that extra money. H is in an incredibly expensive area and will probably need a mortgage to get a reasonable flat. My area is much cheaper and I would be able to comfortably buy a house outright. So, I guess I struggle with 'fairness' (original agreed formula) and 'am I just being grasping?'
I'm not going to do anything different - I already contacted the L - but I have been feeling a little bad about it. H will be 'worse off' than me, given the massive cost of property in his area. He does earn a six figure salary, so he probably won't suffer too much - but his industry is a bit depressed ATM, and losing his job is a possibility. Anyway, what's done is done now and I'll wait to hear from the L. I think it's one of those 'no-win' situations where I probably wouldn't have felt entirely happy with either choice.
Today I needed to get some pent up energy out and I went at the books like a woman posessed. Worked really hard all day and feel somewhat released now. I got a short email back from H in response to my photo - just saying thanks for sending, Mum looks well and he loves my hair
Anyway, that's it from me - quiet night in tonight with a glass of wine. Take care all xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
