Thank you for the information. I have read the DB book already.
Last night after her therapy session we talks and it didn't go well, since she doesn't have a place to go or the resources to leave she told me I was holding her back and controlling her (I told her in the past that I'm not leaving the house or my kids because I'm not the one wanting out.) She believes that because I have a business (it's slow right now and no income for 1 month) that I'm at a better shape than her, I created a sheet showing her everything we have financially including how much we expend a month. I don't think she grabs the idea of how the real world works, mind that she has work all her life but when I meet her she was in debt. I help her get her GED and try to pay for her college so she could get an education but she didn't take the opportunity (She said that she regrets it and admires me for trying to help her out then). With my hard work I was able to pay my student loans and pay her debt she had prior to me, now we don't have debts except for house and my car. But having only one income for a family of 5 is not easy either even if there are no debts. I know I'm ranting and I know I hurt her as well (it takes two to ruin a marriage not just one).
Like I said on my previous post she has been giving mix signals and that is what the conversation was about with her. "I ask if your ultimate goal is to move out why do you hold my hand, Hugh me... Etc." her reply I'm trying to be friendly not being romantic because you told me "I like to be kiss and Hugh" my response was I don't want anything that does not come from your heart. Her reply was "it is from my heart but not as a romantic gesture and to show our kids that you can be friendly even if your not in love with them" Yet before our conversation she send me an image with a prayer "A wife's prayer for a husband" when I ask did you send me this she said "Don't get your hopes up". like I say I'm confused.
