I am moving away to where I'm from and have loads of friends and support there so in a month I'll be surrounded by lots of people that I love, so I can get out and about a lot more and GAL!ive already started that the best I can here but it is pretty difficult with nobody around me.. Ive said it on here many times. The thing that really helped me turn everything around for myself was getting out and meeting new people. People that only know the "new and improved, 2.0 version" of me. Going back to old friends or friends I had when I was married; I found I could only dwell on my M. It was going out and meeting new people that could appreciate me as "ME' ad not as "XW's H" was so critical in my self confidence rebuilding.
I've stopped being so down about my health actually and am Just getting on with it, I don't moan at him or anyone about it any more , I don't talk to him at all about anything apart from the kids. I've realised that right now I feel more positive than I did in the months when he was having an affair, I was panicky, down and worried a lot more than I am now Great!
Not sure what to do about the lack of communication in our marriage as I'm not talking to him! I did say at the beginning to him that I thought this was one of our issues and he agreed but don't really know what else to do about that just yet, I know that (if) we do try to reconcile then we would 100% have to work on that But there are still ways of practicing communication skills that dont require H. Practice validation, empathization (is that a word?), asking for what you want, conflict management, ec, etc. Right?
I totally get that he deserves to be happy. It just wouldn't hurt for him to apologise for all the pain he has caused My line above was with my tongue FIRMLY planted in my cheek. He, of course, deserves to be happy. But happiness comes from within. So, whether its this girl or someone else, until he recognizes that, he wont be happy. Regardless, he doesnt think hes done anything wrong....so he isnt going to apologize.
