Husband has left me for a younger woman

[Georgiabelle]

Bex,

I don't post much but your thread caught my eye. First, I am terribly sorry you find yourself here. It's a caca place to be although there are some great peeps on this forum.

My xh left me for a college student. They are moving in together next month and while I can't say I wish them well-I certainly don't wish them any ill will. I feel pretty much nada towards that situation. I work full time, have 3 kids and would never have won any wife of the century awards. That being said I did love my h very much and considered him my best friend. We had a severely SSM and my attraction to him was pretty much nil. I'm quite certain it hurt him badly. And while I did apologize (I truly did not realize the depth of his hurt), he never apologized in 12 years together. I certainly don't expect one now. And that's okay. We all make decisions and really it's what we can live with which is most important.

I always roll my eyes when people spew affair stats (I know-very teenage girl of me:). Don't go there. It will last as long as it lasts and even if it doesn't, it doesn't mean he will come back. I don't say that to be harsh-just being honest. I certainly am not telling you to give up. Just don't live and die by stats or the words of others saying "he will totally regret this." Maybe he does and maybe he doesn't. I have a good friend who met his wife while they were both married. Full blown affair. They have been married 11 years now. Uncommon? Perhaps. But I know a few affair partner who have gotten married. The reality is that you can't control what your h does. You only control you.

Focus on you and your kids. Regardless of what happens know that you will be okay and can have a fabulous life with our without your h. And yes, I know you want to be with him.

Hang in there! It gets better:)