No, I am not paying for her place, although I helped her find a place. That was mainly because she was threatening to move the kids out of the school district. As a step parent I would have little legal power to stop her. I knew while the youngest would be ok, a move to a different school would devastate the oldest. So I figured the best thing was to find her a place in our school district.
I have not adopted the boys and in my state may have some standing for custody as a step parent. Although it would be unusual. The boys father has nothing to do with them, we have not seen or heard from him in years.
There is more to the porn. I watched porn before we got together and sometimes when things were good. But during the bad times, I watched porn a lot.
One more thing that she complained of was that I paid more attention to the dogs than her. She seems to be very jealous of the dogs. After she stopped sleeping with me, the dog did sleep in the bedroom. She did complain of it in the past. I would make the dog sleep outside the room but after months of her not coming back I did allow the dog to come back to the room.
I am trying the no contact rule, but we have the boys so I have hard time with the no contact. I am also worried that I may fool myself into sending info about the boys and just a means of communicating. Or I will miss read her intentions if she send me info on the boys. Right now the only way we communicate is by text.
Coming up with a goals and a plan along with ways to measure the effects seems daunting... Any advice?
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
