Thanks mut,

I post on your thread more than my own because mostly I don't need to post and secondly I relate to your pain/situation.

Yeah I probably should have stated that the list of stuff to tell W is not about her. It is stuff I sometimes have the urge to say. I in no way except it to save my M. Maybe my opening up could help her do too but that is not my reasoning.

There is so much I would like to say to W and I thought those parts were not too deep to be a mistake.

Plus I still have my W and we are still on talking terms. I probably fear that the day is coming when I won't feel like saying this or anything else to her. And I guess I don't want to look back with further regrets.


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together