I post on your thread more than my own because mostly I don't need to post and secondly I relate to your pain/situation.
Yeah I probably should have stated that the list of stuff to tell W is not about her. It is stuff I sometimes have the urge to say. I in no way except it to save my M. Maybe my opening up could help her do too but that is not my reasoning.
There is so much I would like to say to W and I thought those parts were not too deep to be a mistake.
Plus I still have my W and we are still on talking terms. I probably fear that the day is coming when I won't feel like saying this or anything else to her. And I guess I don't want to look back with further regrets.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together