roiste, I am right there with you brother. I suffer the stalemate of silence. I live with it because it is easier then talking to a wall. I am planning my future and it is the only thing I really think about. Taking my classes to improve my skills and looking at real estate sites for a place to build a house. I work on myself and my relationship with my kids. I can't push a rope, she prefers to be in a different room then me. We didn't fight, she just decided a year ago she doesn't love me and does not want to work on it.
I wish I had advice and could provide a solution for your situation. I am reminded of the adage "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink", this is where we are in our marriages. Enlightening her on the points you referenced in the earlier post are not going to do much to change her mind about your marriage. I think they'll do more for you then her.
All we have are our actions. We must display strength, loving kindness and compassion. If they see us living well, being a great parent, treating them well, they may reconsider their position, lower their guard, second guess their resolve and open up to us. For love to flourish and grow we have to tend the garden. Good soil (our home life), water (our behavior) and plenty of sunshine (our loving kindness) is what we must provide as our wife's stabilize and recover from their emotional struggle.
roiste, all we can do is be the best person we can be. Sometimes you eat the bear and sometimes the bear eats you. Be well roiste, be strong, peace brother
