Of course you don't want to let him go. He's sending you mixed messages because he's mixed up! One thing MWD says is to try something, and if that doesn't work, try something else. Can you get a session with a DB coach? That's an hour with a pro helping you see what's best.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Wow MB, you're so brutally honest on your posts...I think it's wonderful. Stop beating yourself up.
Probably my lack of sleep. LOL.
Originally Posted By: Butterc
would I have done differently? I don't know. But, if it comes to be mentioned, my reply would be to try to validate, even tho I su�k at it presently.Working on thiis.
I was over there about 2 1/2 months ago and validated like a pro. He even stopped what he was saying and just looked at me like he was trying to figure out who I was. It was kind of funny at the time. I just dind't have it in me this time. This time when I went over there, I was feeling down and depressed after thinking of all the IC told me yesterday. I should have just stayed home and practiced taking deep breaths! Instead of making any progress, now I'm going to be in NC for a really long time AGAIN. UGH!!!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
How did you leave it with him? What was the last thing you or he said?
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
He did say you look good. Maybe now's the time to take up running and run around the neighborhood until he notices!
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Honestly, there is no way I can afford it. I mean, I REALLY can't afford to do that. I'm a single mom paying to support my kids (3 in college) and pay my own way on a part time job. Can't get more hours because there are too many people working there so they keep cutting our hours. Right now I have to get my vehicle and my daughter's vehicle registered and can't even do that because I have to buy tires for both of them (front tires for mine and a full set for her's) so they will pass inspection. Don't have money for that either. When it rains, it pours right? Eventually I will get caught up. That's what I keep telling mysel anyway. But, that is a no for DB coach.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
They only way I can go to IC is because H's insurance pays for it. He does have good insurance.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I am NOT a runner. My knees wouldn't hold up to that. But I do walk about 5.5 miles 3 or 4 times a week. Sometimes I go by his house, but not usually. Even if I did, he wouldn't see me because of where his windows are.
When I finished kissing him while he protested (even though he kissed me back!), I stood up and told him that I was going to leave because I didn't want to upset him. When I got to the door, I turned and told him that I was sorry, that I really didn't come over there to do that. He watched while I walked to the door, but then he just looked straight ahead and didn't look at me again.
I was being honest with him. I really did NOT go over there to do ANY of that. OMG, I really didn't!
Now I will stay away, don't know for how long. He won't call. His OW will still come over and he will still go see her. And, I will try to come up with the next stupid thing I can do. I really need help!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
You're gonna be ok. You haven't ruined anything. Probably just gave him some food for thought.
The Benadryl is kicking in and I have to get my beauty rest. Good night dear MB.
(((MB)))
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Oh no.....bad things happen when I'm left alone with my own thoughts!!! LOL
Goodnight NYGal. I hope you have an awesome day tomorrow. Maybe Rain will come over here and keep me company now!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Oh no.....bad things happen when I'm left alone with my own thoughts!!! LOL
Goodnight NYGal. I hope you have an awesome day tomorrow. Maybe Rain will come over here and keep me company now!
Geez MB way to make me feel special!
Oh sweetie...I am so sorry. That is not something you needed to experience right now. He does sound confused. Because if he was all about ow 100% then he wouldn't be kissing you and he would proceed with a D.
However, you are doing what you told me NOT to do mama. You're giving him slices of MB cake and asking him to pretty please cake eat.
I think the NC is what's bothering you the most. Maybe now it's time to get FaceBook. Hear me out before you tell me how much you and H abhor it (I do too btw).
Because you don't have mutual children or even young step children you feel that you have no way to interact or let him know you're still alive so you panic every few weeks and go over there and leave feeling worse than when you got arrived.
Now... If his kids/family/friends/co-workers have FB then THEY can do your job for you. And the best part beyond you not having to feel humiliated and rejected is that eventually it'll piss ow off to no end. And really MB? Isn't that what its all about anyway?!
Will continue in a bit. Also. I agree with NYG. New IC please and asap.
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
