My opinion is to avoid contact as much as possible with your husband. Caliguy is right. Use this time to work on yourself, not the marriage.
Don't hate me for saying this but... Somewhere in the spew sessions there is some truth. Some of the things he says are probably true. It is your job to sift through the BS and work on those issues. You too have some issues that need to be addressed. It is very easy to get caught up in motherhood and forget how to be a wife. I speak from experience.
