2016 a New Year - getting out of my own fog

[Irish M]

hi job , thanks for the words of encouragement. I so appreciate them :-) I hope W does her part also of her journey. If she doesn't then I have nothing else to lose with W and so much to gain in life.

D's got home from school today. It seems a classmate ( i'll call Susan)started telling the D's a discussion that her mom and their mom had.

Susan's mom was talking to W. It seems that W was upset and crying about a conversation the D's had with her. Susan told them that W told her mom that the D's were hanging up on W every time she called. That this week they had a conversation and the D's got mad at her and did not respect her. That W calls the house and I don't answer. This is supposed to of happened this week ?!?! funny thing is W only has my cell number. My house number is private and she does not have it.

My D's were so upset about this story. All untrue of course. The last time they spoke to W was a week before Xmas. I had forced them to call her. W went on about so much and full of denial the D's gave up.

D's said that W was still making up stories to make everyone have pity on her. Funny thing is she is approaching people W did not like at all. She never liked Susan's mom or father. Now she uses her for support.

The D's wanted me to write to W telling her to stop making up stories. I told my D's that I won't write her. It's up to them to express their feeling to their mom. So they did.

It's been a few hours. no reply. What is she trying to gain.. support? I'm sure she doesn't tell her friends and support group that she abandoned the D's and its been 7 months since she physically saw them.

Just so frustrating... how she can still twist the truth. Maybe in her mind that call before Xmas happened only last week. Maybe she thought she called and she hung up before it rang.. i don't know. the D's don't need this kind of chatter W is making up.

I messaged Susan, i politely asked her to not share any future discussions she has with W with her daughter. I didn't try to explain my side or the D's, no point. I simply said that the D's don't need this kind of information that their mother is saying.

Susan's mom replied that she understands and said she will not share anymore. I left it at that.

Weekend coming up... a trip to see W's dad. He promised he won't mention W at all to the D's since the last time it upset them so much. Seeing FIL so hurt for what W did me, them and FIL. He is reliving what his XW did to him and it can't be easy for him to witness his own D going through it. The pain in his eyes the last time we visited was unbearable.

Just more of the damage that is MLC

hope everyone is well.

luv Irish