Wife is in love with another man

[Zues126]

Shreeve...if your W started shooting heroin and was burning through your life savings, risking her life sharing needles, risking her freedom by stealing from her employer to fund the habit, and was letting her friendships and family relationships go down the tube...would you support her in that because it was her passion and you loved her?

Emotional and physical affairs are no different.

If you choose to accept this for any reason...because you are afraid of conflict, because you think your understanding will win her back, whatever...you are enabling her habit and will be responsible for your contribution to the downfall of this marriage.

We on this site believe in committed marriages, monogamy, and lifelong partnerships. We believe that when this is compromised there is something lost that cannot be replaced.

We don't advocate fighting for your marriage in the sense of trying to control her behavior. We do advocate fighting for your marriage in the sense of being a strong spiritual leader in the household and taking bold steps when appropriate.

Do you have any spiritual or moral beliefs that her behavior conflicts with? Or are you more of a believer in 'do whatever you want, it's all good'? I am not judging, merely needing to know how this fits in with your views of the world.