I hear what you are saying and I believe I understand.
I guess, I just wanted to encourage you to keep being patient. I know this is a long tough process...and we each have our limits.
My limit came for me several times before my husband moved back home.
Each time, I told him, "look...at this point a divorce wouldn't impact my life that much...you are already not acting like my husband, not involved in my life at all, and you keep your life private from me. I want to be loved, valued and cherished. If you can't do it...I'm ready to move on."
Twice, he told me, "I'm not ready, I understand if you want to give up...but please, give me a little longer."
The 3rd time, he realized I meant it..I was ready to walk.
And he agreed to move in.
After we started living together, he admitted that he had been stalling me all along out of fear that my changes weren't real.
It was something that, that 3rd time, I was ready and willing to walk away, guilt free, knowing I'd tried my best...and knowing that I'd thrive without him.
It's obvious to me that you are at that point as well.
I hope he comes back to you. But my eyes are filling up with tears, because even if he doesn't, you have become so powerful, strong, and wonderful.
I hope he doesn't lose out on that. But it IS his choice.
