Thank you Cristy, I did try to call but you were out at the time. It's more that my W is in the house most nights. One of her complaints about me is that I 'stop' her going out but in the last month she has only gone out once.
As I have been reading DR, (I have just finished chapter 5) the questions I have are regarding the possible improvements that can be seen. In the past week I have spent little time with her outside of our children and kept any conversations short but polite. She is regularly curious about my day, where I go, if I had a good time when I have gone out. When I read about the LRT, it seems to fit what is written as the second possibility of things that could happen. I'm certainly not going to get ahead of myself and think things are getting better per say but I know she has been asking friends about 'my changes'. I even had one of her best friends call me by 'accident' (something she has never done), and she asked how I was. I kept it short and just said I had looked into myself and was working on me.
Like I said before, I am happy with the path I'm on and will continue on it. I am not going to try and read her mind as it seems to be everywhere and nowhere at the same time.
I have been thinking of something the past few days and maybe here is the best place to garner opinion. Part of what she seems to want is independence, she feels she is too tied to me (something that is fine when it suits her). With our house I have been the one to pay all the bills and take care of 95% of the paperwork especially as we built it. She has one more month here before this apartment is available. I had Been considering suggesting to her that she takes care of all the house stuff for this next month and to say I am happy she is looking to stand on her own two feet. To give her that opportunity that till now she has never wanted to do. Any thoughts?
