Hi Zues, thanks for replying, I'll check out the posts you mention.
I understand your upset and emotion in your situation with your children - this was actually H's own court case to get more than 50% custody of the children because of the ex's mental health issues, and they were years into the divorce. He should have been in a different place and more able to be tactical. I do blame his L most, for not prepping him properly.
I'm not sure if this M is healthy for me. I have just been diagnosed with two conditions that are both aggrevated by stress. I felt much better when I was away last year. I feel like my spirit and body is suffering a lot from this situation.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17