Husband has left me for a younger woman

[Bex]

I honestly think the only real issue we had in our marriage at the time of the affair beginning was lack of sex, but there were reasons behind it 1. We'd just had a baby and had another child aged 2! 2. i was in and out of hospital with my heart so really didn't feel up to it 3. We hasn't sorted out contraception and we got pregnant so easily with our daughter that any time he came near me I used to push him away which must have felt him feel rejected I know - the thing is we were never really good at talking about sex so it kind of became this elephant in the room that we didn't discuss! Anyway by the time I'd felt ready to get contraception sorted etc, went to the doctor to go back on the pill, he has already started sleeping with this girl 😢


When he has explained why he has this affair, he talked about sex a lot which makes me think that this was the driving by force behind it and probably what this affair is mainly about!

To be honest apart from that we were / are a brilliant couple we were partners and best friends, told each other everything, we were recently up until a year ago also business partners and worked together very day and never really annoyed each other. Nobody can believe this has happened and we were so happy!

Here's your side of the story. You think "everything was great but we didnt have sex enough. Here's the reasons why it's not a big deal."

What would HE say about your marriage? What about it drove him to look for support elsewhere?

In my opinion, affairs dont just 'happen'. It takes the Wayward spouse to be in the wrong frame of mind coupled with the opportunity. So what about the marriage led his mind to be susceptible to this?

That's a tough question but you're right I need to be answering that. I suppose it was a communication thing generally in our relationship that was an issue- we got in great with day to day stuff but NEVER argued, always just brushed things under the carpet to keep the peace I suppose. I think There were other factors, he got a new job and I stayed at home with the kids, massive balance change in our marriage, we had worked together before that, earning equal money etc, his hours meant he was hardly at home at all do we barely saw each other, we did drift apart because of that, my health issues put a massive strain on us as I was very down, worried and anxious a lot of the time, I had no friends here so i was lonely at home so every time he came home I would just moan at him. The thing is all of this is within the last year..