I honestly think the only real issue we had in our marriage at the time of the affair beginning was lack of sex, but there were reasons behind it 1. We'd just had a baby and had another child aged 2! 2. i was in and out of hospital with my heart so really didn't feel up to it 3. We hasn't sorted out contraception and we got pregnant so easily with our daughter that any time he came near me I used to push him away which must have felt him feel rejected I know - the thing is we were never really good at talking about sex so it kind of became this elephant in the room that we didn't discuss! Anyway by the time I'd felt ready to get contraception sorted etc, went to the doctor to go back on the pill, he has already started sleeping with this girl 😢
When he has explained why he has this affair, he talked about sex a lot which makes me think that this was the driving by force behind it and probably what this affair is mainly about!
To be honest apart from that we were / are a brilliant couple we were partners and best friends, told each other everything, we were recently up until a year ago also business partners and worked together very day and never really annoyed each other. Nobody can believe this has happened and we were so happy!
Here's your side of the story. You think "everything was great but we didnt have sex enough. Here's the reasons why it's not a big deal."
What would HE say about your marriage? What about it drove him to look for support elsewhere?
In my opinion, affairs dont just 'happen'. It takes the Wayward spouse to be in the wrong frame of mind coupled with the opportunity. So what about the marriage led his mind to be susceptible to this?
